Category Archives: Marriage

The Gospel—Game-Changer for Women

According to the Genesis creation account, God created both male and female in His image. Eve could not have been inferior to Adam, or her seed, Jesus Christ, would have been inferior. God blessed them and gave them joint dominion over the earth and all living creatures (Genesis 1:26-28). But when they sinned, the rules of engagement changed. They lost their dominion, and Satan usurped it. Banned from Eden, God pronounced judgment on all parties: The serpent, Eve, and her husband Adam. Three consequences were borne by Eve and passed down to all women: Continue reading The Gospel—Game-Changer for Women

Jesus Opposed Same-Sex Marriage

The following is my response to opinion piece by Dan Rodricks, a columnist for the Baltimore Sun, concerning gay marriage rights. His original article can be found here.

“What would Jesus do?” The Sun’s Dan Rodricks asked recently in reference to same-sex marriage (“Same-sex unions: What would Jesus do?” Oct. 25). He was highly upset by remarks made by a local Baptist preacher regarding a New Testament Bible verse, Romans 1:32, that states that homosexuality, along with other sins, “is worthy of death.” The short answer is, according to both Old and New Testaments, in scores of verses too numerous to cite here, all sin is worthy of death. Continue reading Jesus Opposed Same-Sex Marriage

When Lust Turns Disgust

One of the greatest “love stories” in the Bible is that of Jacob and Rachel. Jacob had to flee his home in Beersheba where he had lived with his parents Isaac and Rebekah and his elder twin brother Esau for over 20 years. He and his mother had deceived Isaac into giving him the birthright blessing that belonged to Esau. His life in danger due to Esau’s rage, Isaac and Rebekah sent him to her family in Haran to seek a wife of her brother Laban’s daughters. Esau had married Canaanite women which had greatly displeased them. On the way, Jacob had a God-encounter in which God promised to bless him with the blessings he had sworn unto his fathers Abraham and Isaac.

Arriving at the outskirts of Haran, he came upon a well where the people came to drink water and water their animals. While questioning the man at the well about his uncle Laban, Rachel, Laban’s youngest daughter, showed up with her father’s sheep. When he saw her, Jacob ran to her, kissed her and wept, telling her that he was her relative. She took him home to meet her family. When a month had gone by, Laban realized the value of keeping Jacob around, and he approached him with the offer to pay him a fair wage for his services. Jacob was quick to respond, because he had fallen head over heels in love with beautiful Rachel. He said, “I will serve you seven years for your youngest daughter Rachel.” Laban readily agreed and Jacob joyfully and diligently served Laban for the next seven years. “And they seemed to him but a few days, for the love he had for her” (Gen. 29:20). Continue reading When Lust Turns Disgust

When “Admiration” Becomes “Attraction”

Never compare your mate to someone else’s—not your best friend’s or other friend’s—not your in-law’s spouses, etc. Do not ever speak such things to your own spouse about someone else’s: looks, physical attributes, personality, the way they keep house, or parent, or how athletic he/she is.

If an occasion calls for it, it is fine to admire these qualities in that other person, but never compare them to any perceived “lack” you see in your own mate, and do not overdo it! First of all, if you married the one God gave to you, then he/she is perfectly fitted to you and your personality, skills, etc., complementing both your strengths and your weaknesses, (which we all have!).

Furthermore, you are focusing on that person’s good paints while focusing on your mates perceived had points—This is an unbalanced, unfair comparison. The probability is strong that you do not even know the other person’s weak points, because these are generally not displayed in social gatherings, when everyone is on his/her best behavior.

When you develop an admiration for the other person, you become more attracted to him/her, and as a result, often will become less satisfied with your mate, as his/her faults are magnified in your eyes. This originally “sanctified attraction” can lead to an “unholy attraction.” And such an attraction, if dwelt upon mentally, develops into LUST, and “when LUST is conceived it brings forth SIN.” Continue reading When “Admiration” Becomes “Attraction”

Eight Blessings of a Godly Marriage

“I am My Beloved’s, and My Beloved is mine. His desire is toward me, and my desire is toward him” (Song of Solomon 6:3, 7:10).

“And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD. And it shall come to pass in that day, I will hear, saith the LORD, I will hear the heavens, and they shall hear the earth” (Hosea 2:19-21).

  1. “…Forever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me…” (verse 19)—No divorce! God hates divorce! (Malachi 2:16).
  2. “…in Righteousness…” (verse 19)—Always relating to one another in the right way:
    a.
    Husbands: Love as own body, cherish, esteem as weaker vessel (physically); Ephesians 5:25-29, 1 Peter 3:7.
    b. Wives: Respect him as the leader of the home: Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-6.
    c. Both: Be compassionate; not trying to “get even” for offenses: 1 Peter 3:8-9, Romans 12:19-21.
  3. “…in Judgment…” (verse 19)—Using discretion in handling problems.
  4. “…in Lovingkindness…” (verse 19)—A Love with its working clothes on. Express love in actions from the littlest details. Doing things to please the other and what makes him/her feel special.
  5. “…in Mercies…” (verse 19)—FORGIVENESS! Notice that it is plural! There will be countless times over the course of a life together, that you will need to forgive one another. Mercy is not what we deserve, because if we deserved it, it would not be mercy.
  6. “…in Faithfulness…” (verse 20)—No other lovers! Also, defend your mate’s character in times when he/she may come under attack from others. Song of Solomon 4:7, 5:10.
  7. “…Know the Lord…” (verse 20)—Your relationship with God must be rewarding and right. When it is, your marriage will also be rewarding and rich. When it’s not, your marriage will suffer tension as well.
  8. “I will hear, Saith the Lord” (verse 21)—You and your spouse will experience answers to prayers! Otherwise, when there is friction and unforgiveness, “your prayers are hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).